Awareness of Microaggressions

While eating dinner with my family tonight there was a couple next to us having a conversation about our waiter and the way he talks/walks. They had assumed he was part of the gay community because his voice and body posture, which was microaggression even if they had not made a comment to them. This conversation annoyed me because even if their assumption was correct what does it matter? Was it worth having that conversation? Did he hear them? If so, what affect would it have on him?

This week had helped my awareness of microaggressions, within myself and others. It seems that people are constantly stereotyping and most of the time it is not to harm the other person. I have made a conscious effort to think before I talk, as well. What I think is not harmful might in fact harm someone else in ways you would not expect. 

Perspectives on Diversity and Culture

Definitions of Culture:

* Traditions, food, family style, where you live influences your culture

* Way of life, values, beliefs

* How individuals grow up. It's what they take from their environment, home - family and friends. It      encompasses beliefs, traditions, values and how they dress & live everyday.

Definitions of Diversity

* When you mix cultures/beliefs/religions together

* A range of different things

* When you get a group of people from different cultures living/working together

The definitions I received through my interviews all seemed to match the description of surface culture, which refers to the things that are easy to see, taste, and define (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010). The answers seem to be "textbook" answers of diversity and culture - I was hoping to get more depth from the individuals I chose to interview.

Thinking of other people's definitions of culture and diversity has influenced my own thinking in the fact that we, as a society, seem to be living on the surface. This has me thinking how to help guide the children and families I serve to think about culture and diversity on a deeper level.

Reference

Derman-Sparks, L., Edwards, J. O. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

My Family Culture

The reason for bringing my cell phone with me isn't because I would feel the need to have technology it is for the memories stored on the phone. My generation has grown up in the digital age and we store all of our memories on Facebook or Instagram instead of a physical photo album. 

Having my phone with me in the new country could also be beneficial in communicating and navigating my new life.

Cooking is a huge part of my family and family culture. Family dinners consist of the men outside grilling, talking, and playing with the kids and the women are inside prepping and talking. We enjoy cooking together and creating new dishes or trying new recipes - even if they taste terrible. The cookbook would represent some amazing food and memories. 

Football plays a huge role in my family - from playing to watching. Every Saturday growing up we would play flag football as a family for hours, which is where we learned a lot about teamwork, sportsmanship (nobody liked loosing), and exercise. All of my brothers played football when they were younger and in high school - my weekends were all football, all the time. To this day we watch football as a family (cheering on our Denver Broncos)....this sport has connected my family for years and years. 

If I was told upon arrival that I had to give up two of my personal items I would be upset because they are my memories but know that they are material things. I would know and cherish the memories I had created with each of the personal items I was asked to give up.

I had asked this question to my mom and step-dad, just for fun, and their responses were passport, photo ID, and photo album. We had both mentioned a photo album but mine was a digital album, whereas, theirs was a physical one. The two had mentioned that they would bring their passport incase they traveled/moved to another country - I assumed by reading the statement I had to stay in this new host country permanently. So, we all interpreted the question differently, as well.